The Philosophy of "it pays to be a winner" its roots stems from the belief that success is a product of hard work, dedication, and relentless pursuit of excellence. The concept of those who are willing to put in the effort to succeed will ultimately be rewarded with success. In these wacky times that we live in, where losers are being rewarded at the end of the game, by doing this, they are not being encouraged to work to their full potential, one of the side effects of this lunacy, is that the high performing winners may pull back on their performance because they dont see the point in giving a hundred percent of their blood, sweat and tears, and just get rewarded no matter how they perform. Winners understand that it will take hard work to achieve success. They are disciplined enough to start and keep going when it gets hard because they know that is the only way their dreams will come to fruition. They take full ownership, they just let things happen, and they make it ha...

  Your why is the motivation and drive behind WHAT you do and HOW you do it. Identify your own, personal Why your why is your purpose in life, that driving force that keeps you going through those hard times and keeps you on high alert when things are going well. when you imagine this in your mission statement, you can develop more self-confidence, and a greater sense of fulfillment, and make more of a positive impact on whatever you set your mind to. Here are a few tips on finding your why: Question Everything Self-reflect on the current status of your life, ask yourself questions about your core values, what do you want out of life, and what fulfills you. It's good to ask yourself questions before you identify your why, your information gathering to pinpoint your why. Dont Beat yourself up When you ask yourself questions, the answers will reveal themselves, which will lead to self-awareness, and can lead to harsh self-judgement. Just be kind to yourself, finding your why is a sel...

  Stoicism is an ancient philosophy dating back to 300 B.C. that focuses on reframing the mind to not react to what we cannot control. It's a philosophy designed to make us more resilient, happier, more virtuous, and wiser, and the result is better people, better parents, and better professionals. Stoicism has been a common thread through some of history's greatest leaders. It has been practiced by Kings, presidents, entrepreneurs, and the Veteran Warrior Class. Here are just a few steps to get you started on your stoic journey: Accept what you cannot change Some things we can not change, and some things are out of control, even utilizing extreme problem-solving skills, I would put those problems on the back burner and focus instead on things you can control, like your own choices and judgments, by focusing on what you can control, you can then do your best to flip the script, transfigure the negatives into a positive. In every change, even changes that seem to be obstacles, th...

  As a combat veteran who served 20-plus years in the armed forces, I can honestly say I felt fear, why heck, you have to be crazy not to feel fear. When we dread a coming event, we can be fearful about it, for days, weeks, and sometimes months in advance, but in reality, our mind is playing tricks on us, and we only need to be afraid of the moments during the events. Here are a few self-help strategies to help you burst that fear bubble: The Mind Playing Tricks Again Fear can be a result of our minds playing tricks on us, for example, we may see a shadowy figure behind us...but then we realize it's our own shadow. We may be fearful of the big exam on Monday, but with discipline, you studied and were well prepared for the test, and you realize you were sweating over nothing. As the old saying goes, there's nothing to fear but fear itself. It's a Numbers Game Look at the statistics, how many times has your fear come true in your life? Maybe less than 5 percent for most peopl...

  New years means to me out with the old and in with the new, a time to reflect on the events and experiences of the past year and to consider what changes or improvements one would like to make in the year to come. Here are some New Year resolutions to support our troops: Practice Mindfulness Many Americans who make New Year's Resolutions, put mindfulness on their to-do list, but it's a good idea to include thinking outside of our territorial bubble and thinking about those who are currently serving and making sacrifices, sacrifices that you can not fathom the extent of. Remember that the day-to-day lives of our troops, the spouses, and the military children can be challenging in ways that civilians may never fully comprehend and that they are undertaking great acrifices to ensure our freedoms. Giving Makes Us Happy Supporting the U.S. military, whether it be through a donation to a military support organization such as the USO, volunteering with the military, or simply being ...

  Sometimes in life, things don't go in the direction that you want them to go, sometimes things go south. Kinda like a helmsman steering a ship, you try to go against the waves, and those waves are trying to smash your vessel against the rocks. What do you do? Do you throw in the towel and meet your dreaded fate, or stay optimistic, that there is still a glimmer of hope, have a positive mindset, and follow the mantra of "Improvise", "Adapt" and "Overcome". This mindset can be a game changer, embracingthis mindset can help navigate the twists and turns of life, with determination and resilience, making you an unstoppable force against any obstacle. Let's break down on each component: Improvise Improvising is all about thinking outside of the box, being "Johnny on the spot" thinking on your feet finding creative solutions to unexpected challenges, and busting down those walls that are set in place to stop your journey. As the great Granny ...

  You may ask, what does it mean to fill your cup? To fill your cup means to replenish the mental, emotional, and physical energy that has been drained. It means that you need to stop and recharge those batteries of yours. Having a full cup means that we have made our physical, spiritual, and emotional needs a priority. When our cup is overflowing, we are well-rested, well-nourished, and full of energy. We have taken the time to fulfill our emotional and spiritual needs. When you make time for self-care, your cup is full and you have the energy to do the things that you love. If your self-care cup is empty, you won't have the energy for the everyday demands of life. You are more productive when self-care is applied. Here are a few tips to fill your cup: Turn Off Your Tech Turning off your technology may enhance social connections, unplugging allows us to connect with others on a deeper level level and engage in activities that promote social interactions. Increase mindfulness, by d...