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Burst The Fear Bubble


 As a combat veteran who served 20-plus years in the armed forces, I can honestly say I felt fear, why heck, you have to be crazy not to feel fear. When we dread a coming event, we can be fearful about it, for days, weeks, and sometimes months in advance, but in reality, our mind is playing tricks on us, and we only need to be afraid of the moments during the events. Here are a few self-help strategies to help you burst that fear bubble:


The Mind Playing Tricks Again

Fear can be a result of our minds playing tricks on us, for example, we may see a shadowy figure behind us...but then we realize it's our own shadow. We may be fearful of the big exam on Monday, but with discipline, you studied and were well prepared for the test, and you realize you were sweating over nothing. As the old saying goes, there's nothing to fear but fear itself.


It's a Numbers Game

Look at the statistics, how many times has your fear come true in your life? Maybe less than 5 percent for most people, knowing this fact may ease your fear.


Challenge your Fear

Unleash that beast inside of you, and tame that fear, that fear may not be life-threatening, but our subconscious mind may lead us to believe so. Empowerment helps to dissolve fear.


Evidence

Be your own detective, for example, if you fear that people will laugh at you during a public speaking engagement, reflect on your past interactions communicating with others, document if any or no negative feedback, then read it back to yourself when you feel the fear.


Take a Time out

Fear can lead to high anxiety, so take a time out to calm down and refocus, take a walk around the block, take a bubble bath, or just have a cup of tea to soothe your nerves. 


Palms Are Sweaty, Like Moms Spaghetti

Usually, when we feel fear, our heartbeat races fast, and our palms sweat. When this happens, take deep slow breaths, close your eyes, and imagine your happy place, a place of safety and calm, or just think about a happy time from your childhood. Let the positive feelings soothe you, which can be a good coping mechanism.


Closing Thoughts

When you burst that fear bubble, your self-esteem goes up, your self-respect increases, and your sense of personal pride grows. You will eventually reach that point in life where you are fearless and will dive into the ocean of life head first.

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